International Self-Care Day falls on the 24th of July every year. The date itself carries a message: 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, self care is not something you schedule around your life once in a while. It is meant to be part of every single day. But for many people, that idea […]
Author Archives: Nubi
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Jul
Jul
You tell yourself you will sleep when you are done. Done with the deadline, done with the chores, done with the endless WhatsApp messages. But days turn to weeks, and “sleep when you are done” quietly becomes a lifestyle. What if the exhaustion, the short temper, and the racing thoughts you have been battling are […]
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Jul
Jul
“You this girl, always resting, are you not lazy?” If you have ever heard a version of this line, from an aunty, a colleague, or even your own inner voice, then you already know how deep the confusion around self-care runs in our culture. For many Nigerians, taking time to rest, say no, or simply […]
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Jun
Jun
Some wounds bleed. Others bruise. But some wounds live quietly inside a person, invisible to everyone around them, yet present in every flinch, every sleepless night, every memory that will not stay buried. This is what Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, commonly known as PTSD, looks like. It does not always show on the outside. But it […]
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Jun
Jun
He still goes to work every day. He still laughs at jokes in the family group chat. He still shows up at owambe parties looking sharp in his agbada. From the outside, everything looks fine. But inside, something has gone quiet. The joy is missing. The energy is gone. And he cannot explain why, because […]
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Jun
Jun
Every human being experiences stress. It is a natural response to the demands and pressures of daily life. But what happens when the mind and body are exposed to something far beyond ordinary stress? What happens when an experience is so overwhelming, so traumatic, that the nervous system cannot simply process it and move on? […]
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Jun
Jun
In Nigeria, a man who cries is called weak. A man who says “I’m not okay” is told to “man up.” A man who asks for help is quietly judged as someone who has lost his grip. So what does a Nigerian man do when the weight becomes unbearable? He smiles. He disappears into work. […]
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May
May
We Teach Children So Many Things. But Do We Teach Them How to Feel? From the moment a child can sit upright, we begin preparing them for the world. We teach them to read, to count, to write their name, to say please and thank you, to share their toys, to work hard in school. […]
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May
May
The Relationship That Was Supposed to Feel Like Home There is a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from being in a relationship that is slowly breaking you. It is not always dramatic. It does not always involve shouting or visible bruises. Sometimes it looks like walking on eggshells in your own home. Like editing […]
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May
May
Everyone Feels Sad Sometimes. But What If It Is More Than That? You had a rough week. A relationship fell apart, a job opportunity did not work out, or life just felt heavy for a few days. You cried. You withdrew. You told yourself you just needed time. And then the time passed. But the […]
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